CO-WRITTEN BY FRIEDA LEVYCKY, FOUNDER OF BRAVING BOUNDARIES, AND ALICIA KOCH, FOUNDER OF THE LEGAL BELLETRIST
It’s 8pm and you’re just getting home after another long day. The evening has disappeared in a blur of meetings, deadlines and the relentless grind. You rush through dinner, help the kids with homework (if you have them) and maybe even tie up some loose ends from work before bed. You barely have time to catch your breath, let alone think about fitting in the self-care your company encourages. As your day comes to an end, you wonder: “How am I supposed to balance it all?“
Maybe it’s not quite as extreme as working 80-hour weeks and coming home at sparrow’s o’clock, too tired to eat anything more substantial than a bag of popcorn. But still, your social life has taken a back seat. You’re missing family birthdays, skipping out on dinners with friends and even struggling to keep up with your own well-being. Your “plus one” these days might as well be a deadline.
Companies may champion self-care and work-life balance with wellness programmes, mental health resources and flexible work options. But despite these initiatives, the pressure to perform often overshadows their efforts. The real challenge doesn’t just lie in what the company offers, but in the deeply ingrained mindset of the people within the organisation. Even with the best intentions, applying these practices can feel impossible when a culture of overwork and resistance to change prevails.
What is work-life balance?
When we think of work-life balance, what immediately comes to mind is the perceived equal amount of time we will have to do personal things as we would to work. Or perhaps we see it as the convenience of being able to manage a personal life during the workday, without the hassle of having to get permission or explain our activities to others. Really, both of these explanations of what work-life balance is are wrong. They both fall short of exactly what work-life balance could mean.
In fact, in the article: What Does Work-Life Balance Even Mean?, author Maura Thomas says:
“It’s true that leaders can’t give their employees work-life balance. Each person has to decide for themselves whether they will take it. But a major consideration in their decision is how their work-life balance will affect their career and how they are perceived in the organization. And that means that leaders have a lot of influence over the decisions that employees make.”
She makes a valid point about perception. Especially in rigid industries like law firms, accounting firms and banks, where the expected norm is to work through lunch breaks, arrive to work early, leave a good while after 5pm, and be contactable at weekends and during holidays. And this is the case, even when work-life balance – at least in print form – is encouraged by the organisation.
Why is self-care in the corporate world so hard?
In many industries, particularly the more traditional ones, the expectation to work long hours stems from historical practices that have been passed down through generations. Let’s face it, banks with their clocking in and clocking out and law firms with their billable hours, working too much is par for the course. It just is. We all know that hard work is worn like a badge of honour. “This is how it’s always been done” becomes the unspoken rule. Senior professionals, having “paid their dues” through relentless hard work, often resist change believing that others should experience (i.e. endure) the same path. There’s comfort in sticking to methods that have worked in the past, even if they’re outdated or harmful to employee well-being. Change requires challenging deeply ingrained cultural norms, which many organisations are hesitant to do, even when there’s ample evidence that overwork reduces productivity and damages mental health.
While many workplaces now provide external offerings to support mental health, such as mindfulness programmes, access to therapy or even mental health days, it doesn’t necessarily translate into practice. Employees often feel they can’t take advantage of these services due to the ongoing pressure to meet expectations. Examples like free gym memberships or well-being apps are great in theory, but when the culture still encourages 12-hour days and answering emails at all hours, people may feel like they’re failing their duties by engaging in those self-care activities. The challenge becomes: “How do we shift both the mindset and the culture to actually allow employees to use these benefits?”.
The importance of incremental changes and personal responsibility
It’s vital to understand that while the workplace and corporate systems may have their flaws, significant changes to your work-life balance often start with small, personal adjustments. While it’s tempting to think that the only solution is to quit and find a better environment, that’s not always realistic for many people, particularly those who are sole breadwinners or feel tied to their current role. Taking personal responsibility for creating healthier habits within the boundaries you control – whether it’s setting time limits for work, taking small breaks or managing expectations – can create a ripple effect, gradually shifting how you experience your workday.
Here are some small, practical steps to gradually integrate self-care into your daily life:
Start with micro-breaks
Taking a five-minute break between meetings to stretch, breathe or simply step outside can do wonders for your mental health. These micro-breaks are a quick and easy way to reset without disrupting your workday. Here are a few examples of micro-breaks:
- Desk meditation: Use a five-minute guided meditation app like Headspace at your desk to reset your mindset and shake off negativity.
- Desk-a-thon: Fit in quick a 5-10 minute workout at your desk to boost energy and productivity throughout the day. Healthline has curated a list of 30 office exercises you can try at your desk with no or minimal equipment. Like tricep dips and desk push-ups. Or you could just take two flights of stairs to get the blood pumping. Remember it needs to be quick and effective.
- Desk stretch: Step away from the screen and do simple stretches like standing and reaching over your head to release muscle tension.
- Stay hydrated: Keep a water bottle nearby to ensure you’re drinking enough water which, in turn, will improve your mood, focus and overall well-being.
Set boundaries on communication
Set small boundaries on your availability. Whether it’s turning off notifications after 8pm or scheduling 15 minutes of “you time” before bed, you don’t have to be available 24/7 (no matter what anyone says!). By creating windows of downtime, you begin to reclaim control over your personal time.
Practice saying “No” to one extra task
Instead of overloading your schedule, try saying no to just one additional task each week. This small act of self-preservation can create a noticeable difference in your stress levels over time. This will make room for personal (and arguably higher) priorities, like your well-being.
Integrate self-care into your existing routine
You don’t need to carve out hours of time for self-care – fit it into your existing schedule. For example, rather than catching up on emails, listen to your favourite podcast while commuting, meditate for a couple of minutes before a meeting or make your lunch break a time to catch up properly with friends rather than treating your lunch break as another rushed task.
Focus on incremental mindset shifts
Start shifting your mindset slowly. For instance, challenge one belief you have about success needing to be tied to overwork. This gradual mental shift can eventually build resilience, helping you prioritise your needs alongside your work. For most professionals, this is one of the most difficult steps to take and it may require some support from a coach or counsellor. If you are struggling, reach out to Braving Boundaries to gain some ideas how you can start this process.
Creating an environment for self-care in a corporate environment
It’s important to recognise that while we can’t change everything about the corporate system, we can change our mindset and approach to our own health and wellness. Small changes in our behaviour and boundaries can have a profound effect on our well-being, helping us to thrive even within imperfect systems. Over time, these personal shifts will likely contribute to bigger changes in both our work-life balance and potentially in the culture of the workplace itself.
The bottom line here is…
Put your self-care at the top of your priority list. Like it or not, you are replaceable at work. You are not replaceable at home. Sure, it may seem easier said than done. Finding time and space in an environment that simply doesn’t whole-heartedly support self-care is hard, especially when there is the expectation to put work first. But you can make space for yourself in small ways. And those small ways can make big waves if you let them.
Corporate Wellness: Next Steps
Corporate wellness and the programs that promote healthier bodies and minds of employees are win-win for employers. By investing in their employees, companies ensure improved morale, increased productivity and output and happier teams working cohesively together. And with benefits like that, it makes one wonder why every business in the world hasn’t at least considered it.
Download the new Braving Boundaries Corporate Wellness Brochure.
