The Ghost in the Corner Office: Grieving the Life You Thought You’d Have

by friedaL2020 | Mar 26, 2026 | Change, Lawyer Life, Lessons Learned, Life after Law, Personal Growth, Self-awareness, Self-reflection

WRITTEN BY ALICIA KOCH, FOUNDER OF THE LEGAL BELLETRIST  Many professionals reach a point where life looks successful on paper but feels different on the inside. This tension between who we thought we would become and who we are today often brings a subtle form of...

The Identity Purgatory – Surviving the “New Year, New Me” Glitch of 2026

by friedaL2020 | Jan 29, 2026 | Change, Finding direction and purpose, Mid-Life, Personal Growth, Self-awareness, Self-care, Self-reflection

WRITTEN BY ALICIA KOCH, FOUNDER OF THE LEGAL BELLETRIST  It is January 2026, and the collective vibe is less “sparkling fresh start” and more “just trying to keep the engine from smoking.” We are officially back at our desks, staring at cursors that blink with...

If Our Lives Were a Movie

by friedaL2020 | Dec 16, 2025 | Celebrations & Festivities, Communication, Effective communication, Personal Growth, Self-awareness, Self-care, Self-reflection, Stress & Anxiety

WRITTEN BY ALICIA KOCH, FOUNDER OF THE LEGAL BELLETRIST  Rated ‘U’ for Unexpected: A Love, Actually Remake Starring Me, a Bear, and a Maine Coon As a certified, card-carrying love fool – the kind who still believes Hugh Grant can dance and that a...

What’s Holding You Back? Overcoming Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Failure

by friedaL2020 | Aug 28, 2025 | Change, Finding direction and purpose, Personal Growth, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Stress & Anxiety, The Fears series

WRITTEN BY ALICIA KOCH, FOUNDER OF THE LEGAL BELLETRIST  It’s a funny thing. When we think about all the things we have accomplished in our lives – and some of the things that we haven’t accomplished (yet) – each thing has been because we either made up...

Who You Were, Who You Are and Who You Are Becoming

by friedaL2020 | Jun 26, 2025 | Change, Life after Law, mental health, Mid-Life, Personal Growth, Self-awareness, Self-care, Self-reflection, Stress & Anxiety

WRITTEN BY ALICIA KOCH, FOUNDER OF THE LEGAL BELLETRIST  INTRODUCTION: WHY SELF-REFLECTION MATTERS I read a quote the other day that said –  “A person without self-reflection never changes they just get older.” And it got me thinking.  About who I am. Who I was. And...